Call it bribery. Call it negotiating. It works. I may be causing more harm than good in the long run but making deals with my son keep my household a peaceful and fun place to be. You want a cookie then you have to put on your PJ's by the time I get back from the kitchen. You want to watch one more Diego then you have to eat Ravioli and peas. It is a true "tit for tat" here. We negotiate everything. He wants me to play soccer with me 1o more minutes than he has to take a shower right after with no complaining. "Mommy and Daddy I want one more this or that" and he has to taste tomatoes or soy beans.
Now don't get me wrong, we do most everything without something in return but whenever he wants something extra that's when its gonna cost him. Sometimes he doesn't want to pay the price and so it is still a win-win.
